Yes, I am single now. I have been single for about 3 months now(A sober, haha!). While there are a lot of things that led the relationship to be broken, I am not gonna discuss them here now. I wanted to share what being single AGAIN is really like, especially after a 'serious' (LOL) relationship of about 2 years. Here are my reflections about my second phase of living single and how it differs from my first one.
- I have more time on my hands now.
- Since I have more time, I make use of it in various activities that I haven't tried out at all or in some time.
- I garden.
- I spend my time without my mobile phone now without the ever nagging compulsion to carry it around all the time. This is one thing I appreciate a lot now. Previously, I had to carry my cellphone with me even when I had to step out the home for a while for a small walk. Now, I don't have to wait for the message from that 'one' and reply to it immediately(Believe me, I had to reply as soon as I got the message, because slow replies were frowned upon and fought on too).
- I look at things differently now. Well, this may not be the case for everybody being single and it is more of a personal observation.
- In a sense, I feel more free now. I guess this would be the case for people who have come out of a toxic relationship. Not that I mean my relationship was completely toxic, but to a certain degree it was locking me down from my desires.
- I sing. Yes, can you even believe it? I have started practicing again because, you know, I got a lot of free time(ta-da!).
- I feel more focussed on building my career now. I want to do something worthy, something to achieve for myself. I work for it now everyday, or at-least I get the motivation to work for it, to go for it. I have the never ending urge to establish something for myself now. And building my career comes first before me to accomplish that.
- I socialize better, without the fear of being 'caught'(LOL, what an idiot I have been!). This may not be everybody's case, but I feel that now, I feel more free to socialize with new people without having to provide a log of whom I met and whom I talked to, to some other person. This is liberating(Yee-haw!).
- I have the urge to look better now. This has led to me looking to improve myself in various aspects. Better grooming, better dressing, better gentleman manners, and what not?
